I specialize in supporting couples to improve their sense of connection. I work with relationships of all shapes and sizes, including those who practice various forms of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. 

One of the fundamental human dilemmas is how to be in a relationship and maintain an autonomous self. We are social beings who need safe, supportive relationships in our lives to help co-regulate our internal systems and soothe our attachment needs. Often many of our relational challenges come from difficulty navigating differences in the relationship.

My approach to couples work pulls from a variety of perspectives, including Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method, and Family Systems. However, my primary and most intensive training and experience comes from utilizing Gestalt therapy with couples. This style of work is active, where we will get to practice new ways of relating and communicating in session together in a safe, supportive environment. We will work to have each member of the couple feel supported enough to show up more authentically in the relationship and experience a fuller, more satisfying connection. 

Couples therapy can help with:

• Communication struggles, which can often show up as patterns of conflict escalation and/or avoidance
• Shifting the structure of the relationship to be more open or closed
• Unsatisfying and asymmetrical power dynamics
• Premarital and proactive support to assess current concerns and build skills to navigate the journey of a long term committed relationship 
• Anger and resentment
• Infidelity
• Long-standing unresolved conflicts or differences
• Feelings of disconnection and isolation

Couples therapy can support you in achieving:

• Greater awareness of the “dance” and patterns in your relationship and the impact these dance steps have on each partner and the relationship itself
• Co-creating new relational patterns and communication styles that support each of your needs for connection and secure attachment
• Tools and experience in opening up your communication to feel more fully heard, understood, considered, and responded to all while staying in safe connection
• Tools and experience in taking in the other’s feelings, needs, and experience while being able to stay open to engagement and connection with the other
• Satisfying balance of autonomy and relational connection
• Tools for how to repair and de-escalate when hurt or conflict arises